The Man Meme Monday, Sep 22 2008 

My Man Meme

Happily Stolen from Golfwidow

He is watching TV. What is he watching?
Something cheesy and questionable that is probably made by the SciFi Channel. Something with aliens in it, preferably.

You’re out to eat. What kind of dressing does he get on his salad?
Ranch, if they only have the standards. Bleu Cheese, if they’ve got it. Sometimes Catalina or French.

What’s one food this person doesn’t like?
I think he’s recently decided that he definitely doesn’t particularly enjoy sushi. And he didn’t like the escargot years back. Otherwise, if it’s on his plate, he’ll try it.

You go out to the bar. He orders …
Beer. If he’s feeling kicky, a Texas Tea. But only if I’m driving.

Where did he go to high school?
Friendswood High School

What size shoe does he wear?
10 1/2 in pretty much any kind of shoe or boot.

If this person were to collect anything, it would be …
Computer parts. He already does that, actually. He collected “Magic: The Gathering” cards back in the day and has quite a few of the first few releases, but they’re in storage and I don’t have to look at them.

What is his favorite type of sandwich?
One with lots and lots of vegetables plus some banana peppers tossed on for good measure. He could forego the meat, actually, and just have veggies with cheese and mayo.

This person could eat ______ every day.
Veggies

Favorite cereal?
The sugary, rot-your-teeth, kids cereal that his mom didn’t let him have when he was a kid. And he’ll eat more than one bowl of it, too.

This person wouldn’t be caught dead wearing …
Spandex.

Favorite sports team?
We don’t do sports. If computer gaming were considered a sport, he’d definitely have a favorite.

Who will he vote for?
He doesn’t like either of his options and isn’t registered to vote anyway. But if he were, it’d be for McCain. With grave reservations.

What is his sign?
Pisces. Like my dad, but at the other end of that astrological spectrum.

What is something you do that he wishes you didn’t?
Nag. And I do my best to not. Sometimes it slips out without me knowing it.

How many states/counties has this person lived in?
Just this one, Texas.

What is his heritage?
He is a European immigrant melting pot. German, French, Spanish, Portuguese, Italian. And when you add my Irish, English, Scottish, American Indian, and God knows what else, our little boy is just a mutt. We like him that way, though.

You bake him a cake for his birthday. What kind do you bake?
Cheesecake with strawberry topping.

Did he play sports in high school?
He played on a soccer team when he was in elementary school, but I think that was his last run-in with organized sports. He was more of a “climb a tree, take a hike, go whitewater rafting” kinda kid.

This person could spend hours …
Using the computer. And often does.

He wants a new …
Car, house, computer, job. Not necessarily in that order.

The CD I would probably find in his vehicle is …
…a burned copy of a computer game. He loves his music, but doesn’t like to listen to it in the car.

What can you do that will guarantee a laugh from him?
Say something shockingly sexual at an very inappropriate moment, but so that only he can hear. I think he likes it when I shock him.

Does he get along well with his family?
Not particularly. There are certain members that he holds dear, but not many.

If money wasn’t an option, I would buy him …
A 1975 Chevy Monza. He owned one once and has been in love ever since.

How can the world have moved on when we’re still standing here? Friday, Sep 19 2008 

Friday

We alternated between obsessively watching the news/weather and standing outside commenting on whether the winds had picked up any. I spent the time between cleaning, washing clothes, cooking. We knew we’d lose power but we didn’t know when and we didn’t know for how long. By 8:30 that night the lights began to flicker. The dishwasher was an hour away from being through its cycle and the last load of laundry was in the dryer. I prayed for power until midnight, just to be safe. At exactly 11:33, the lights went out and stayed out.

By this point, the winds had really picked up and we could hear it howling around the corners of the house. The tall, skinny pine trees in the backyard thrashed back and forth and we watched in wonder because they didn’t break. The rain really hadn’t gotten to us yet, so it was just gusts of wind that we were dealing with.

I have an aversion to trying to find sleep when it is hot in the house, so once we lost power my instincts took over and I went to bed.

I didn’t say they were good instincts.

The stress of the day had caught up to me, and I fell asleep almost immediately.

Saturday

I awoke around 3am. The wind had progressed from howling to screaming and the rains had found us. The water hitting the window sounded like so many pebbles being hurled. The Hubby had not yet come to bed (apparently his instincts are smarter than mine) and I assumed that he was watching the storm. Sleep came again.

Around 5am, I awoke a second time to absolute silence. The Hubby had joined me at some point, and he woke up when I woke up. I asked if the storm had finally passed and he laughed quietly and said that this was just the eye. We had been in the eye for a little over an hour, and probably would be there for at least another hour.

The EYE? Over us?! But we’re at least an hour north of Galveston!

I did the only thing that made sense to me at the time and went back to sleep.

At 8am, I woke up for the day because I was floating in my own sweat. The winds were still very gusty and the rain was still pretty heavy. We couldn’t open windows for ventillation because the winds would blow the rain in and soak the floors. It was hot and humid – the two things I had been dreading with the coming of Ike. Although we had no power, the stove runs on propane, so we were able to boil some coffee. No one was in the mood for a hot breakfast, so we either did without or found something cold. We gathered around the back windows and watched the world come apart around us. By lunch, the majority of the rain had moved north along with the worst of the wind.

We were lucky. We lost power, but not water, not phones, not gas. We still owned a corded phone, we just had to find it. Venturing outside, the lawns were absolutely covered with debris from the trees. I commented that it looked like a crazed gardner had gone mad with the hedge clippers. Entire limbs were not just laying on the lawn, but were impaled in the grass and dirt like someone had tried to plant it from the leafy end. Walking around the house to survey the damage revealed nothing wrong with the house. Not even a lost shingle. The driveway had another story to tell, though. A tree from our neighbor’s yard had broken and fallen on the cars in our driveway. About 1.5 feet across at the base and over 20 feet tall, this was no small tree. It had broken, snapped like a dry twig, about 10 feet up from the ground, then crashed onto the roof of the Hubby’s car. Some of the larger branches landed on the top edge of my trunk lid, denting it up a bit. But then the winds had picked up again, lifting the tree and rolling it backwards off both of our cars and onto my mother’s, which was parked behind the Hubby’s. Her hood was crushed, the luggage rack shattered, and the rear window imploded on impact. Every part of her SUV had a dent in it, except for the front doors. The insurance adjustor who looked at it a few days later declared it a total loss.

We were lucky. The people across the street had a tree lean over and come to rest on their roof. Thankfully it didn’t fall into their house. It just slowly leaned that direction. Around the corner from us, there’s a family that no longer has a garage. There is an uprooted tree in its place. And across the street from them, that family has daylight in their living room from the gaping hole in the roof. And further down the street, the entire corner of the house is gone, and in the cul-de-sac further down, that family’s house is missing an entire exterior side.

We were lucky. We had a friend that shared his generator with us until we could get our own. It kept the refrigerator and deep freezer just cold enough to keep our food from spoiling. The people across the street lost everything in their refrigerator. They had no generator and none of the neighbors with one knew that they needed help. The businesses in the area lost whole roofs. The Enterprise Rent-A-Car in Baytown – just south of us – looks like someone set a bomb off in the rear of the building. The front looks completely whole. People 10 minutes south of us had 8 to 10 feet of water in their homes. Comparatively, we got a little sprinkle. Yet, as lucky as we were, Crosby looks like it’s gone through a war. Devastated is one word that could be used to describe this community, but it pales in the light of reality. So many lost so much that they could not afford to lose. But we were lucky. We are alive. Our homes and businesses still stand, albeit some of them are a little shaky.

Within a few hours of the storm finally passing, our next-door-neighbor, the owner of the tree on Mom’s car, came out with his chainsaws and began de-treeing the SUV. We don’t own a chainsaw, so we weren’t sure what to do about it. It was half a tree, after all, and all of us together couldn’t get it to move. The guy next door, Dad, the Hubby, and one of the guys across the street all pitched in to get Mom’s car uncovered. All told, it took about 2 hours. Not bad, considering you couldn’t tell there was an SUV under there before they got started. Once that was finished, they moved across the street and got the tree off that guy’s house. By the time they were done, it was past dark. And when I say dark, I mean hold your hand in front of your face and not be able to tell that you’re about to hit your own nose dark.

While most of the men were cutting down the tree across the street, the hubby and I weaved our way out of the neighborhood to our friend’s house to pick up his generator. We were going to share it so that we had it 8 hours and he had it 8 hours. The problem was getting from one home to the other with the street choked by tree debris and some of them crossed by downed power lines. We took a pretty detailed map with us to help navigate around the downed lines, and just hoped for the best. A 20 minute trip took over an hour, but we got there, grabbed the gennie and weaved back home. What a godsend! We opened up every window we could reach, propped up every fan we could and slowly, one by one, we drifted off to sleep serenaded by the hum of a street full of generators.

Sunday

The day the storm hit, Mom and I had sent the guys out to try to find some of the things we had discovered we were out of. One of the things on the list had been a battery-powered AM/FM radio or, at the very least, a NOAA radio. All they could find was an AM/FM radio headset. By Sunday, I had started becoming obsessed with listening to the news and weather on the headset. We spent the majority of the day outside, cleaning up the rest of the yard and helping out our neighbors with their own clean-up. We don’t have a huge yard, so the job was done fairly quickly for us, at least in the front. We had taken our friend’s gennie back in the early hours of the morning, so the house was stifling again. It had rained that night, supposedly to bring us an early cold front, but we weren’t feeling the temps drop yet. If the outside was in the mid- to upper-80’s, the inside of the house was at least 5 degrees warmer. There was no point in staying inside, so if I wasn’t raking leaves and branches, I was sitting in a lawn chair cooling off. Mid-afternoon, we picked up the gennie again for our time with it, and Mom and I retreated to the indoors to escape the mosquitos and to lay on a fan for a while.

The day passed quickly, and soon it was time to sleep again. Unfortunately, the gennie had to go back to our friends, so the house was very hot. I tried laying down in bed with no luck. I just tossed and sweat. I tried laying on the couch with slightly more luck, because I would sleep in 10 minute snatches. Finally, out of desperation, I took a cold shower and, without drying off, lay down on the bed with towels underneath me (no sense in ruining the mattress). With wet skin, I was able to stay cool enough to fall asleep for a couple of hours. Then, I would wake up drenched in sweat and with a driving headache, and take another cold shower to repeat the process. It was a relief when morning came. The strain of trying to sleep was driving me mad. At least with the sun up, I didn’t have to try anymore. But, I was in a daze. Little to no sleep for two days in the heat makes Jen a loopy girl.

Thankfully, the gennie was at our house for the day, so I parked a chair in front of a fan that had been put in the window, and stayed as still as possible. The guys were off trying to find gasoline. There were a couple of gas stations open, but the lines were hours long. The generator needed fuel, though, so there they sat. At least they were in a car with air conditioning. For my part, I tried to move as little as possible. It wasn’t hard to stay still since every movement was painful. My joints were aching with exhaustion, my headache wouldn’t go away, and neither would the heartburn. The Kiddo was suffering as well, and spent the day snoozing on the couch. We were too hot and exhausted to do anything else. Around 10pm that night, the gennie had to go back. When the fans went off, I nearly cried.

I think that was our breaking point. We had to do something. The fans weren’t cooling the air, but they were moving it. And when you’re already sweaty, sometimes all you need is moving air. The food in our refrigerator was starting to worry me, as well. The generator was getting it all cold again, and it was re-freezing the stuff in the freezer compartment, but that was the problem. It was getting the food cold or frozen again. When we didn’t have the generator, the temperatures in the fridge were reaching dangerously high levels. We had a quick family discussion and decided that we would split into teams the next morning. Mom and I in one, and the Hubby and Dad in the other. We would hit two different Lowe’s stores and try to buy our own generator. Mom and Dad would buy it, since it was their house and they would want to eventually tie it into the main house breaker box so that extension cords wouldn’t be needed. Everyone went to bed and tried to sleep.

I sat in the recliner in the living room and listened to the radio headset. My body ached with the need for sleep. I felt nauseated and light-headed all at once. Yet, still, I couldn’t sleep. I tried the cold shower technique. No dice.

Monday

At 3:45am, the Hubby woke up. He had slept the previous afternoon during the hottest part of the day (and while we still had fans), so he was pretty much slept out. He fixed coffee while I found breakfast. By the time we were done, Mom and Dad were up. The plan was to leave the house by 5am, get to Lowe’s by 5:30 for me and Mom, and 6 for Dad and the Hubby. We would stand in line as long as necessary to try to get a generator. Whoever got one would text message the other group (voice calls were not going through). Mom and I got lucky. Our store opened at 7am and they had received two truckloads of generators the previous evening. They had, literally, hundreds of generators available, and we were 22nd in line. The Hubby and Dad had a little less luck, since their store didn’t open until 8am, and the store only had about 15 generators available. They were 12th in line.

When our store opened, the manager announced that they had a lot of generators, extension cords, water, and batteries. There was a limit of 2 generators and 2 cases of water per customer, and they would take any form of payment except barter. They were letting people in 20 at a time. As customers left, the store employees would let another in. It didn’t take us long to get into the store, pick up what we needed, and get in line to check out. The employees were pre-loading the generators onto carts and had stacks of oil, extension cords, batteries, and cases of water close at hand to add to the carts, if the customers wanted more than just a generator. Mom and I grabbed a cart, checked out, and by 7:30am, we were on our way back to the house.

The guys took a little longer, since they had to pick up an extra couple of gas cans, then find some place to fill them. By lunch, though, they had the generator set up and the precious fans were blowing once again.

Never in my life have I so appreciated the power of moving air.

That day, I spent some time in the backyard helping to clean it up, took a nap, ate dinner, then went back to bed.

During that evening, the cooler temps finally settled down into our area, and the inside temperature of the house dropped to a chilly 63 degrees. It was heavenly! I actually had to throw the sheet over my legs! Seriously, it was the best thing that could have happened. None of us were sleeping well, and it would have been too easy to get sick. With all of the local clinics and stores closed, it would have been hell to have gotten sick.

Tuesday

It was so cold in my room that morning that I actually pulled out a throw blanket to cuddle under. I didn’t want the full summer quilt that’s normally on my bed, because that would still have been too much to bear. I slept so well that I woke up energized. I cleaned up the kitchen (it’s amazing how nasty things get when there’s no power!), vacuumed the carpets (had to turn everything else off to do it, but it was worth it), and pulled out sausage to have for dinner.

The neighbor told us that the local Wal-Mart had opened for business, so Mom and I headed that way to try to find some things that we needed and that might make our lives a little easier. First on my list: a dish drainer. We have a dishwasher. Running on a generator means no using the dishwasher. Fine. I can wash by hand. But drying things is a little more difficult because the counters are full of all the other crap we normally use, but now I need to find the space for dishtowels to put dishes on. Things were getting a little cramped, and the dishtowels were always wet, which is not a good thing when you have no power with which to run a clothes dryer to keep the wet dishtowels from souring and/or mildewing. So, a dish drainer. We also needed a couple more extension cords because the kiddo’s room was really hot and we needed to get some fans in there STAT.

The dish drainer wasn’t a problem. The extension cords were. I wanted two, 25-foot cords. I ended up with two, 7-footers and two, 9-footers. It was just going to have to be good enough. We checked the food section and witnessed the strangest thing ever at Wal-Mart: empty shelves. The entire refrigerated section was empty and roped off. All of it. Produce, dairy, meats, beer & juice…all empty. The bread aisle was empty save for a few packages of hotdog buns. Mom got really excited about those buns until I pointed out to her that we didn’t have any hotdogs to put in them, and Wal-Mart wasn’t selling any at the moment. In the back of one of the shelves were a few loaves of Oatnut sandwich bread, so I grabbed a couple of loaves and called it good enough. The powdered and canned milk section was also empty. Thankfully, we had a few cans of evaporated milk at home, as well as most of a box of powdered milk. If we really HAD to have milk, we could figure it out. I picked up some sodas, just to give us a change from water, some peanuts in the shell for Mom, and that’s about it. The other things we had on our list (milk, eggs, meat) were just going to have to wait.

By the time we got home, it was nearly 5pm, and I wanted to cook us dinner before the sun set so that the house would have plenty of time to cool off. So, as soon as everything was unloaded, I started cooking. Sliced sausage in bbq sauce, steamed & buttered rice, baked beans, and corn on the cob. We were all so happy to have a normal, hot dinner. It’s funny how the smallest bit of normalcy can really make a difference in your mental condition.

After everyone had eaten and the dishes had been scrubbed and set to dry in our brand new, handy dandy dish drainer, we plugged the TV in. Oh yes. It had taken us most of the day, and three different people searching, to find the antenna for the set, but we did find it, hooked it up and were finally able to get a visual on what had been going on since Friday. For the next few hours, we sat in silence, stunned, as we took in the images of our decimated home. I had seen Crosby and parts of Channelview, and had even gotten a glimpse of northern Baytown, but the rest of the Houston area, as well as Galveston county were much worse than I had imagined. It honestly looked like dozens of very strong tornadoes had touched down all over the metro-Houston area. Galveston has not seen such destruction since the 1900 hurricane, before the seawall had been built.

Sleep that night came quickly, if only to escape the images of destruction, and the knowledge of how difficult it will be to recover.

Wednesday

The Kiddo has finally discovered that other children his age live in the neighborhood. As I walk around outside, I’m struck over the numbers of children that are outside playing. On a typical Saturday afternoon, one would think we lived in a retirement community that has age restrictions on the residents. Not so. We live in a very large neighborhood that is simply full of children from newborn to high school. The city’s elementary school is IN this subdivision, for goodness sake! It is a wonderful thing to see children out playing with each other, and mothers gathered together in one garage, watching over the kids and getting in a little social time, as well. This is the way it’s supposed to be! One end of the street has a touch football game going. The next-door-neighbors have small children playing hotscotch (really!) in the driveway. Across the street, several children have gathered (mine included) to play on the huge trampoline that I have never once seen used in over a year of residency here.

He comes into the house during the late afternoon, starving, according to him. He fixes himself a sandwich, some chips, a soda, inhales it all and runs back out. He doesn’t want to miss a moment. A week ago, he couldn’t have cared less that other kids live on this street. His entertainment was the computer and he even communicated with some friends from school over it. As glad as I am that he’s relatively techno-savvy, I would like it just as well if he occasionally spent more time outdoors being physically active. I would rather he looked like his father and less like me. After a brief discussion with the Hubby, we decide that once the power is back on and the Kiddo has had a day or two of computer “fix,” we’re going to start sending him outside more often. Staying inside and moping in his room or listening to his MP3 player will not be an option. I don’t care if he sits at the end of the driveway drawing circles in the dirt. So long as he’s outdoors while he’s doing it. But I have to be the one that makes him. He’s far too willing to let outside playtime go by the wayside.

I cooked dinner again, since it seemed to have such a positive impact on us the night before. We’re running out of useful things to do besides service and refill the generator. More and more, I’m finding the adults pacing (inside and outside), or sitting in the living room staring out the window. We’re all doing the same thing: waiting for the power to come back on. We made chicken & dumplings a few weeks ago and froze the extra, so that’s what I warmed up. It was good and appreciated, but we’re all fading. I can see it.

Thursday

Sleep is becoming harder and harder to come by. The temperatures during the day area creeping back up into the 80’s, even though the nights are still in the 60’s. The house gets hot and stays that way for many, many hours after sunset. It’s well after midnight before I stop sweating long enough for sleep to stop eluding. I have taken my car in today to get an estimate on the repairs. I still don’t know anything because the insurance claim is still too new for it to be showing up in the computer system. So, I wait for something else.

I am worried about school. The Kiddo’s schools have been closed all week, and it’s unlikely they’ll be open before Monday. UHCL is also closed all week, but I’m not sure yet if classes will resume Monday. How does a college make up two weeks of lost class time? I was supposed to be taking a substitute teacher training class this week at Lee College. Lee College overlooks the bay in Baytown. You can actually see the water from the campus. I’m not a full-time student there anymore, so I have no way of finding out what’s going on. They’re not listed on the “school closings” on the news. The school district the college is in (Goose Creek CISD) is closed “indefinitely” or “until utilities return”, depending on which station you’re watching. Will they reschedule the class I was supposed to take, or will they just cancel it since it was only continuing ed in the first place? I don’t know.

I was feeling really tired, so I took a 3-hour nap in the middle of the day. I woke up feeling worse than I started, and even more tired than before. I’m really worried that depression is settling in. Everyone kept asking me what was wrong, but the only answer I could give was that I was tired. Which was true, but why?

Watching the news didn’t help. Eating did; drinking water did. Some. Dad tells us that he’s going to go check on the generator, make sure it has enough fuel to last the night. He’d been out in the garage for a good five minutes when I noticed the lamp on the side table was on. For the past 3 days, Dad has been making trips to the local hardware stores. He doesn’t want to have to worry about the power the next time we have a storm. He wants to set up the main breaker box so that the generator can tie in and power the house in the case of another outage. With the generator in the garage, we have to run extension cords from the gennie to the appliance(s) we want to run. We ended up with cords all over the house, creating quite the trip hazard. Dad wants to eliminate this. We won’t be able to run the a/c or the clothes dryer, but we’d be able to run everything else from the outlets in the wall instead of from extension cords.

I looked at that lamp on the side table for a few seconds, trying to remember when someone hooked it up to an extension cord. Then I noticed that the kitchen lights were on. That was even weirder, because I really couldn’t figure out how Dad had gotten the generator to power lights that had no plug. Then it hit me.

Our power was back on.

Just like that. No fanfare, no warning, no fuss, no muss. I muted the TV and could hear people whooping, hollering and cheering in the street. It was 9:36pm.

Ike Thursday, Sep 11 2008 

Welcome to Patriot’s Day 2008: The Day Houston Panicked Over Hurricane Ike.

I’m not making fun; it’s just a reality of living here. To be fair, projections across the width of the “cone of uncertainty” place Houston at risk for tropical storm-force winds, at the very least. Those in the southern counties around Galveston: Please be careful. Please help each other. And Pray.

School was cancelled for me today, and the campus will be closed tomorrow and through the weekend, as well. UHCL is in Clear Lake, which is in Galveston County, which is under mandatory evacuation right now. There is actually a pretty large population of international students who attend UHCL, and the school is working with them to provide transportation out of the area, if they need it. Right now, they’re not even sure if they’ll be open on Monday. It all depends on how much damage is done by the hurricane, if power is lost, and for how long.

We were monitoring the Kiddo’s school district website last night, and as of the time I went to bed, school was cancelled for Friday, but on for today. So, he got up this morning, caught the bus, and trundled on to school. At 9am, the phones started ringing – house and all the cell phones – with messages from the district superintendent, letting us know that the Kiddo’s school and the high school were being dismissed at 10:30am, and that a parent needed to be at the bus stop or the child would be taken back to the school. As soon as I heard what time the kids were being dismissed, I realized why the district even bothered with them going in the first place: Attendance. School children are required to attend school for a specific number of days each school year. Any days missed for inclement weather, which Ike qualified as, must be made up. This is true throughout the US. The “official” attendance each day is taken at a specific time, even though each class takes attendance. It’s the “official” one (call it the census time, the time of record, or whatever) is the one that the district, and therefore the state, counts. If your kid goes to school in the morning, but you pick him/her up before the “official” attendance time, your child is counted absent for the day. This school district had the kids go to school just long enough for “official” attendance to be taken, so that this day can count as an instructional day. It keeps the district from having to make up two days of inclement weather later on. I get it and don’t really have a problem with it, I just wish the district were more honest about why they do things.

Anyway, I’m home, the Kiddo is home, the Hubby just walked in the door, and Mom is home. Dad has gone over to help a friend who lives in Dickinson (Galveston County, and a city that began mandatory evacuations last night) to board up his windows. Apparently this guy plans on staying home through the storm. Good luck to you, sir.

As soon as everyone has had lunch, we’re going outside to clean up the yards. We don’t want to leave anything that can be blown away outside. The fewer projectiles, the better. We’re in a very tree-full area, so mother nature has already provided enough projectiles to suit me, thanks.


In other news, today is the 7th anniversary of the terrorist attacks on New York City and the Pentagon. Never, ever will I forget what it was like that day. Never will I forget what it was like to be at work – an hour away from my child – and be helpless to go to him. My job took precedence over everything, and it should NEVER be that way. Working at a phone center was stressful enough, but during times of crisis…well, you can imagine how busy the phones were. All those companies letting their employees go home (unlike my sorry-assed company) and shutting down, just to be safe. Thankfully, the Hubby’s company shut down, too, and he was able to go get the Kiddo, but I am (obviously) still resentful that it was just expected that I would stay and answer frickin’ phones instead of being with my family.

The calls we were receiving from the northeast were terrifying. And by the time I got home that night, every channel was showing footage of what was going on in New York, Washington and Pennsylvania. It was sickening to watch, but I was helpless to turn away.

Today, I cannot look at footage or photos of that day without tearing up. I can’t dwell on what I felt that day without feeling it again. I will never be the same person as I was on September 10, 2001. And thank God for that. I am wiser, and I am less willing to put off doing what I know should be done. That mentality is what finally got me back into school. But I will also not forget how devastated we were by the human loss. There are so many families that are now incomplete because of what one group of people decided to do. Murder is one of the most heinous crimes a person can commit. You are ending a life before God ever intended for it to end. You are taking away any chance that person has to choose between humanity and Eternity. If there ever could be the most unforgivable sin, murder would be it.

Retrospection Wednesday, Sep 10 2008 

It’s been a busy week!  Homework is piling up and errands are accumulating.

There was a day last week that, on the way home from school with the Kiddo, he expressed much dislike of his history teacher.  Now, I’ve had my fair share of problems with some of his teachers over the years, so I’m usually pretty open and supportive of his complaints.  On the other hand, I have a little better understanding of what his teachers deal with these days, so I’m often able to explain to him why his teacher has done what he/she has done.  Once he understands the reason behind a behavior, he might not be happy about it, but he’s usually more accepting.  Well, I approached his latest pronouncement with open curiosity.  I asked him to tell me what was going on that he would suddenly dislike his history teacher.  Apparently, one of the requirement for the class is that each student keep a 3-ring binder.  In the binder, there must be 5 dividers with the tabs labeled “just so”.  Between the tabs must be certain papers.  These papers must be in a very specific order.  The grade for the binders is a pass/fail situation.  Either you have it all correct or not.  That easy.  This, apparently, pissed my son off and he decided that he was going to take a great disliking to this lady.  I tried explaining to him that this was not an unusual requirement, nor was it beyond what she should be expecting of 8th graders.  No dice.  He was still, stubbornly pissed off.  I explained to him most of the teachers he has from now through college will have this kind of expectation of him, so he might as well get used to it.  No dice; still pissed.  I explained that the teacher could have given him a bunch of boring stuff to memorize and taken his recitation of the information as a grade, but instead she’s practically giving him a passing grade in the form of a binder.  No fuss, no muss and no memorizing boring history stuff.  That calmed him down a little.

Sometimes, It’s all a matter of perspective.


I just found out a few days ago that one of my oldest friends (old in terms of how long I’ve known her, not to her physical age) is getting her PhD.  I didn’t even know that she’d returned to school!  It’s so cool to know that I’m going to know someone with a doctorate.  She’s such a smart girl, anyway, and I knew that she had plans to get it, but I didn’t realize that she was going to go for it so soon.  Of course, it’s been many months since I’ve talked to her, so I realize that life can and does change.  Regardless, I’m so happy for her!


The kiddo had a friend sleep over last Friday night.  Two thirteen-year-old boys in one house was hilarious.  They’re constantly picking on each other, pushing, elbowing, racing, putting each other down.  It was all in good fun and neither one ever crossed the line into being mean or cruel, so that was nice.  I can’t wait until I have a classroom full of these stinky, writhing bodies!  LOL!  It’s no wonder that the girls that age don’t want anything to do with the boys!  I decided to give the boys a choice on dinner: hamburgers or pizza.  I know, neither option is the healthiest thing out there, but we never go out for burgers for dinner, and rarely order pizza.  Of course they chose the pizza.  I let them decide on the toppings for one pizza that would be just for them, and it’s a good thing I did because between the two of them, they finished the whole thing.  A large pizza from Domino’s with every meat they sell (some of them doubled), plus double olives, and double cheese.  And those two kids finished that whole damn thing by themselves.  It still makes my head a little swimmy thinking about it!


We have a new baby in the house.  It’s a kitten!  The guy that lives behind us found it in his yard last week, and didn’t want it eaten by his dogs, so he dropped it over the fence into the yard of the people that live next door.  Those folks never go into their backyard, so this was like a death sentence for the kitten.  All day long on  Sunday, Mom and I kept hearing it cry from next door.  It had been back there for several days, so we were sure that if it didn’t find a way out, it was going to die.  We looked for it, but couldn’t find it.  And we couldn’t get into our neighbor’s backyard because they were out of town.  I was heartbroken, but I didn’t know what else to do!  On Monday, I got up and was informed that the kitten had found it’s own way out of the neighbor’s backyard and into ours.  Dad found it perched on top of our grill, just bawling it’s lungs out.  He brought it inside and put it into one of the cat carriers I keep, gave it water and gave it some of the food my cats eat.  Later that day, Mom took her (it’s a girl, thank goodness) to SNAP to get her checked out.  She doesn’t have feline leukemia or feline HIV, so far as they can tell.  And she doesn’t have heartworms, thank goodness.  They didn’t test her for intestinal parasites, they just went ahead and treated her for all four varieties.  She does have a terrible case of ear mites, poor thing.  So, she got her first round of vaccinations, deworming, ear mite meds, and flea spray.  She’s only 6 weeks old, so she’s not quite old enough for the flea drops that you put on the back of the neck.

She is the friendliest cat I’ve ever encountered.  She is happy to be held, petted, played with.  Will sit in your lap as long as you’ll let her, and once you put her down she’ll twine around your ankles asking for more.  She squeaks!  It’s so cute.  She’s skin and bones, but we’re working on that.  She is a medium-haired, solid black ball of cuteness and I have to bite my tongue to keep from squooshing her to death.  My cats hate her (of course), and she hates the dog.  It’s all good.

Mom named her Cosmo.  She didn’t want to give her a name that was cliched for a solid black cat, like Midnight, Inky, Blacky, or anything else like that.  I think Cosmo is rather masculine sounding, but that’s just because I watch too many of my son’s cartoons, and The Fairly Oddparents has eaten my brain, apparently.  She is not my cat, thank God.  I can’t afford another one.  She, officially, is the newest pet of my parents.  Dad doesn’t particularly like cats, he’s much more of a dog person, and really hates litter pans.  We don’t let our animals live outside, though, because we view that as the height of irresponsible pet ownership, so owning a cat naturally means having a litter pan in the house.  I think maybe having my three brats living under his roof for the past four years has softened him up.  He’s had to reconcile himself to having the litter pan in the house, so continuing with it isn’t so much a problem.  Of course, this also means that when I move out and take my cats and litter pan with me, he’s still going to have to have a litter pan in the house.  Reality might set in a little at that point, but he’ll be totally attached to Cosmo by then.  She’s sneaky that way.


School is trucking right along.  Homework is piling up, and I’m getting assignments done just in time to turn them in.  I worked on a Web Development project for hours on Saturday, then for a few more hours on Sunday, but it was worth it when I finished and realized how much I’d learned about HTML.  I then had a project for Classroom Management to do that’s due by 7pm today.  I finished it by Sunday evening, and emailed it to my instructor according to submission protocol, but I haven’t heard back from her to let me know she got it.  She promised that she’d always let us know, so I’m getting a little worried.  I have to leave here in about an hour and won’t be back in front of a computer until I get home again at 11pm tonight.  I won’t have a chance to resend the assignment to her once I leave and I don’t want it counted late.  I submitted the damned thing Sunday night for goodness sake!  Well, I’ll take it to class on a flash drive, and I have proof that it was originally submitted on Sunday, then again this afternoon – both times well before it was due.  Hopefully, if it’s just an online class tool issue, the instructor will be understanding that I did everything I could.

That’s it for now.  I need to start getting ready for class!

Motivation Wednesday, Sep 3 2008 

After a long, four-day weekend, I was not ready to return to school.  I was completely unmotivated to get anything resembling schoolwork done.  I still am, but I’m fighting through it.  :)   I stayed up til about 1am getting Linear Algebra homework done.  1am isn’t bad for me these days since I’m sleeping til 10 or 11…it goes with the territory, I guess.  Anyway, the homework I finished last night isn’t due until next week, so I’m a little ahead there.  I’ve gotten my assignment for Web Development done for this week, but I really need to get a couple more finished to get a little ahead in that class, as well.  I started on next week’s assignment in  Classroom Management, but I had too many questions about it to get very far. 

Man, is this boring, or what?

My schedule this semester is very different, and not just because I have all night classes.   With the Kiddo needing to be picked up every day after school, I don’t have the abundance of time at school to get work done.  Trying to work at home isn’t always productive because I have so many interruptions and distractions.  On the other hand, I’m keeping up with personal business a little better because I’m home to deal with it.  It’s a trade-off, I guess.

Today is the Kiddo’s first after-school section rehearsal.  He’s finally getting to that age where his extracurricular activities require regular after school time, and I’m going to need to be available to him for transportation purposes.  Gone are the days when it was the school bus in the morning and the school bus in the afternoon, and I didn’t have to worry about anything else.  If I weren’t graduating this semester, I would really be worried.  As it turns out, God’s timing prevails, and I’m graduating at just the right time for my family’s needs.  And my going back to work won’t interfere, either, because the job I’ll have has the same hours as my child.  I never thought I’d see the day when I would have a career, not just a job, a degree, and have none of it (or very little, anyway) interfere with my family life. 

The hubby and I went looking at property and houses this past weekend.  We’re trying to get a handle on the property that is available in Crosby.  Turns out, there’s not much out there.  Oh, there’s land, but much of it isn’t for sale.  And the land that is for sale is restricted or very, very expensive.  Lake Houston isn’t very far from us, and the San Jacinto River practically runs through the neighborhood we’re living in now.  That means that quite a lot of the property for sale is considered waterfront or “near waterfront” property.  Either type means the price skyrockets.  We found two acres in the southern part of Crosby (not close to the water at all) that had all the utilities already installed, plus a driveway, and it was selling for just under $40,000.  Two acres in the northern part of Crosby (on and/or near the water) with no utilities or improvements was selling for close to $150,000.  That’s just one example. 

We also went to speak to a dealer of the modular home we’re interested in buying.  That was a productive conversation, at least!  We got the base price on the house we want ($80,000) and tons more information.  For instance, we can probably get the same kind of space or floorplan through another manufacturer for about $10,000 less than the one we looked at.  The dealer confirmed what we’d been finding with the available acreage in Crosby, and that it’s scarce unless you want to spend a LOT of money, which we don’t.  There are some drawbacks to the home/land situation we’re looking at that may push us to buy more conventional housing.  1) The combined cost of the land, home, foundation, well, septic system and clearing of the property may far exceed what we can possibly afford.  Were it just the house, that would be another story, but it’s not.  2) Finding appropriate land to put the house on may be close to impossible without moving out of the school district.  3) These houses do not come with a storage shed or garage, so where are we going to store tools and lawn equipment?  We’ll have to build a building for this, which adds to the overall cost of the house considerably. 

Since our goal in buying a house in Crosby is to keep the Kiddo in the same school district, we may have to “settle” on purchasing a regular house in a subdivision, living there for five to seven years, and then selling and moving into what we wanted in the first place.  And really, what is there to complain about?  Either way, we’d be buying our own home.  We’d just be delaying getting that “ideal” for a few years, just enough to see our child graduate from high school, and possibly college.  And in the long run, that’s not so bad.